Long Distance Relationship advice please?

I've been ';with'; this guy for a year now, it's a long distance relationship, we met on the internet and havent met in life but have webcammed and stuff.





When we first got together and started getting to know each other we had so much in common, he seemed so perfect for me, I knew it was going to be difficult with the distance and stuff, but never really expected it to go so deep. He knows every single thing about me now and I just can't seem to walk away from him.





The first 4/5 months (which at the time I didn't know about) he was flirting with this other girl over the internet and left me for her, but then we got back two days after, and he just said he was worried about the distance and it was her persuading him to leave me, he lives in the USA, I live in the UK.





June we were fine, still recovering from finding out he'd been flirting on me behind my back, he still flirted with online friends, but as far as I know, it was never as heavy as before.





He decided to go to camp in late July/August, where I decided to end it as it was really stressful being able to trust him, six days after we split, he got sexual with another girl at camp for just a weekend, she was a **** and did this to many guys at her stay in camp. He apologised saying he was depressed, crying to me over the phone, I eventually gave him ';one last chance';, where he promised he'd change his ways for me.





In august/september we were going through a rough time, I was having a hard time coping with what he'd done, even if we were broken up at the time he was sending me texts and we were planning to get together. I made him send me his chat logs with the girl he had been flirting with all January-May and my heart shattered, all along it was him pursuing the flirting and questioning himself whether to leave me for her or not, he admitted he never really loved me all these months but did now and still wanted to change for me.





He lies about everything to me, he lied about looking at porn and instances with other girls where ';nothing happened'; so he didnt want to ';worry me';. Recently he's been getting friendly with this girl from his high school who's pretty and popular, but used to bully him, he says he doesnt want her to hate him, so he's nice to her back, she seems to be texting and calling him all the time and he's had her in his car a few times for lifts home from school and such, and once when she was drunk. It makes me feel very insecure due to his past and he said he'd calm it down and ignore her for me, but I recently found out she'd been texting him and asking if he wanted to hang out, he told me he had ';hinted'; to her that he couldnt do that with her but he said ';she must not of taken the hint';. I feel like he's lying to me, I don't feel like he truly loves me although he claims he loves me 100% and only me and is 100% committed to me (I doubt he even knows what that means), he's proved himself to be very attention seeking and it seems any other offer with girls to ';hook up'; he will willingly take.





I love him, so ******* much, he's my first ever ';serious'; boyfriend, even though he's ';online'; we have been planning to meet ever since we got together and he seems to perfect and I just can't let him go, but he's really really hurt me and now he seems to be getting involved with this other girl now, how can I ever compete when she's right there and she has classes with him? He says he's changed, when I tell him he hasn't he says ';he wants to';, my Christmas and New Year were ruined by him, we planned to spend them both online together, watching movies and stuff but that all messed up and I ended up going to bed early upset, he just doesnt seem to bother with me anymore but as soon as I try to call it off, he keeps talking me back.





We're not exactly ';in'; a relationship, we havent been since September, we have been planning to get back together in summer when he was planning to come to England to see me, but then.. he just doesnt seem to care, and then he says he loves me 100%, he's confusing the **** out of me, I've tried talking to him, he doesn't understand how much he's really hurt me.





What do you think I should do? Should I just leave the pathetic lying sociopath or should I stick it out for something which could be perfect when we're together in real life.Long Distance Relationship advice please?
Wow, sweetheart.


I would understand the reason you'd have to go under all this drama if you met him and dated him BEFORE you lived far from each other. But babe, you met him online which is very dangerous and people aren't often themselves when they're online as opposed to how they'd be in person.





Just think of this:


If he's unfaithful to you already when he's away from you, what makes you think he'll be any different if you guys happen to live close to each other in the future. He really isn't worth it - and LDR with a guy who flirts with other girls and is shady in general is not worth it.





I hope you'll take this advice to heart and find someone in your general area that will appreciate you for the bright girl you are. You don't want to mess with this jerk - as he'll only cause you heartbreak by messing with other girls because you're an ocean away.





You may think you love him now because every first love feels like they're your entire life, but trust me- when you find a guy that's worth your time and is loyal and makes you laugh, you'll regret you even wasted time on this guy.





It worked for me. :]Long Distance Relationship advice please?
Enjoy and forget 2nd moment may not in your favor
all i can i say is WOW. having a relationship in the internet for a year and haven't met each other in person is crazy. you must really care for this guy. on the other hand, being in a relationship should be fun and full of life. you shouldn't be stressing. maybe you two are perfect for each other, who knows. but if you seem to be confuse, stressed, backstabbed, and jealous, maybe you two shouldnt be together at this moment. i think you should take a break from this guy and enjoy life.