Im in a long distance relationship and things are not going so well, i need advice.?

me and my boyfriend has had a longdistance relationship for 4 and a half years. i really love him. but we are always arguing.last week we got in an arguement because i saw a girl writing him messages on his myspace page. from what she wrote it didnt seem like they were just friends. so i questioned him about it and he got so mad. and we stopped talking for a couple of days. then when he finally did call me he told me that since he cant talk to me, he talks to other girls.i try to talk to him but he never seem like he wants to talk. what should i do?Im in a long distance relationship and things are not going so well, i need advice.?
4 and a half years online relationship???? wow such a wasted years with a moron just get over it and find someone REAL lololIm in a long distance relationship and things are not going so well, i need advice.?
Taper off and move on.
he is tired of the wait


and it is clear he does not want to communicate with you


so ignore him





believe me he will eventual want to know what is going on with you, the more you refrain from writing to him





so please do not be so easy to get


besides soon you will be all cried out over him


besides I really think his true colors came out
break up with him. i mean, do you honestly want to live your life in doubt? get rid of him and find some guy near or around you. it seems to me that he's no longer interested in keeping his part of the bargain. it will hurt though considering that you've had more than 4 years together but think also of the emotional stress it's giving you.
Never confront them unless you have solid proof or catch them, or you will look like the paranoid one. A lot of people say those kinds of relationships don't work. I see some work and some don't. I have a relative who moved to another state to marry his long term relationship. I hate to use a cliche on you, but if it is meant to be it Will work out. But if you love eachother and but you don't have trust, it can't last. Love and trust go hand and hand.
i understand what ya mean...i sware myspace should have never been made! because it cuases to much problems!...im sorry to here your situation...well the next time you do talk to him tell him how you feel tell him that you love him and no one else and see if you guys can make plans to visit one another thats always soething fun and all to look forward to:)..and when you guys do see eachother when ever ..you guys decide to visit one another try making a move after talking for a bit and see what goes from there:) well GOOD LUCK! ...i hope i helped:)
I dont know..i think he loves you but cant seem to control the urge to flirt with other women...Men! I think you know what you should do. But the truth is, you dont want to right? There's a feeling a guilt and selflessness because of how long you've been together. :) think this through
ldr don't work have a nice day.
Four and a half years is a long time. He will want to chat to others too. You are obviously unsure of him. Get a boyfriend you can spend time with and make the best of it.
Long distance relationships always take a toll, even with the closest of relationships.





It does sound as though there is a deep disconnection going on between the two of you.





Your best bet would be to have an honest and open discussion him, with your emotions in check. Try to have it in a public place, say a restaurant, where the both of you will be able to discuss everything in a somewhat civilised manner. Yes, I am suggesting that you make an extra effort to meet up with him face to face. If he's no longer interested in you, you'd be able to see it in face, and face up to reality. Women like to delude themselves into wanting to beleive a relationship that is beyond repair can be saved. By facing him, you will get the closure you need and move on.





Accept the fact that he may no longer be the one for you. Move on. You will find that time heals all wounds and when that better man comes along, the one who cannot bear to spend a day apart from you, the one who calls you 3 times a day just to hear your voice, the one who makes you feel beautiful inside and out, then you will ask yourself '; why was I such an *** to spend 4 and half years with that other deadbeat?';
you seem to be confused. I guess you should break up wid him . Long distances never work out. If you can't break up you must have this private conversation and makes some vows and clear the way of doubts.Truth is the solution to all problems, remember that.
It is very hard for me to believe that you wasted 4 1/2 years on this meaningless long distance relationship, sweetie!!! What in the world is wrong with you??? Why would anyone want to be in a relationship when all you are is ';penpals'; and then you tell me you argue all the time??? Well, Myspace tells a lot.......you and he a very immature. Take a look at your life and decide what you really want. Dump this ';relationship'; and start interacting with live people.......ddon't look back on all this with wasted regret!
I am currently in my 4 and half year or LDR too. It's hard, but just move on. Stop wasting any more time for jerks that is not worth it. You might think that you want to savour this relationship since so much time and effort have been spent on it... but it's not worth it. So, just move on.. Why should you take all this nonsense when he don't care anymore?





When and if he finally get back his senses, you would be happier and moved on and it would be too late for him. Don't waste time trying to knock some sense into his head, he will only reject it. Love yourself!
Sound like the Little boy is tiring to have his cake and eat it 2, Girlfriend You caught him on line with Girl Instead of his woman!!! And the girl is writing Notes that they are more then friends, Time to go, Time for you to get a better dip ';stick'; then that dude was going out with. If the cat is away the mice will play, Hi mice!!!!!!!!!
It sounds to me like he wants to explore other options. I am sorry.