My boyfriend of almost five months lives in the UK while I live in the US. I realize while long distance relationships are hard and rarely ever work, it can eliminate at least some difficulty by establishing an actual visual connection, for example web cam. However, after firmly telling me that he wants to stay with me, follows up to tell me that he completely forgot about webcamming and was planning to go to bed soon. He's not changing his mind, just says he's sorry and that's that.
Am I just overreacting by being hurt? Any advice on whether this is just a guy thing or what you would do, any kind of past stories or anything.Advice for a long distance relationship?
I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years and now live with him. we are very much in love
so for all the doubters it really can work
However there are several factors
Trust has got to at a absolute maximum
If its long term you both have to understand one or both may change and drift apart
If its possible see each other as much as poss. i saw mine very 4 to 6 months
Skype may also be a great investment, free long distance calling
Oh and it can be very very lonely, and until you close the distance you have to Absolutely respect you have that internet life but you each have individual ones that must be respected and accepted
I really hope it works out for you and admire you for trying, but if it goes wrong there's plenty more fish in the sea. sometimes i got a bit emotional when my boyfriend couldn't webcam although he'd promised. but i think this is a forgive and forget thing. it probably did just slip his mind maybe you can talk tomorrow or whatever
Best of Luck
Saskia + WhiteAdvice for a long distance relationship?
don't get in one. It never works no matter how hard you try. Trust me
I have only 1 rule when it comes to relationships that are serious or casual and that is they have to be with in distance, no more than 60 miles or an hour away. Okay, I will be flexible about an hour and fifteen or twenty minutes. Relationships work by having communication and direct contact. If either one of those are NOT present then the relationship will certainly fall apart 95% of the time.
I don't believe in long distance relationship.If you can not see and touch every week ,forget it. Either one can be a cheater. If he doesn't want to talk to you, I think its time to move .
honestly if u dont have plans to move near him soon its not gunna work
first off, the uk is full of twats
secondly, long distance NEVER WORKS and its an absolute FACT
lastly, you should stop being butthurt
if this guy would rather go to bed than talk with you on webcam then surely he's not as interested as he used to.
did both of you live close when dating, or were you to always on opposite sides of the atlantic? will you 2 ever see each other soon? can you 2 live together?
there are several factors like what i listed that you need to consider in order to really know how this long distance relationship can go. if you could answer my questions i can reply with my most honest opinion.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
I need some advice (boyfriend trouble + long distance relationship)?
okay so im 17 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for some months now but we go to two different schools. he lives in markham but i live in dolton. he went to see his dad in wisconsin but he didnt tell me n i hav been callin and callin i know that he is back but he still hasnt called me, what should i do?????????I need some advice (boyfriend trouble + long distance relationship)?
Well, I recommend to stop calling him. You say you have been calling and calling and you know he is home. He knows you are calling. I'm 100% sure his cell phone has caller id. Let him call you now. As much as it bothers you to NOT call him anymore, stick to it. Don't become obsessive to him. He will call when he is ready, and can then explain to you his reason for not calling you back sooner.I need some advice (boyfriend trouble + long distance relationship)?
i agree that the best thing to do is not to keep calling him and don't leave him angry text messages or anything. you will seem desperate and needy. he will only get annoyed and that's going to drive him away further. i know that you're dying to know why he won't contact you, but you just have to wait until he's ready to say what's on his mind.
long distance relationships can be very hard. dont put more effort in it than he is. you said you've been calling and calling and he's not returning the favor. quit calling, see what happens. you're still young, why not date people who are local.
HE MIGHT NOT GET GOOD RESEPTION OR HES JUST TRYING TO BOND WITH HIS DAD HE COULD HAVE FORGOT HIS CHARGER AND CANT CALL OR HIS PHONE COULD B OFF
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Well, I recommend to stop calling him. You say you have been calling and calling and you know he is home. He knows you are calling. I'm 100% sure his cell phone has caller id. Let him call you now. As much as it bothers you to NOT call him anymore, stick to it. Don't become obsessive to him. He will call when he is ready, and can then explain to you his reason for not calling you back sooner.I need some advice (boyfriend trouble + long distance relationship)?
i agree that the best thing to do is not to keep calling him and don't leave him angry text messages or anything. you will seem desperate and needy. he will only get annoyed and that's going to drive him away further. i know that you're dying to know why he won't contact you, but you just have to wait until he's ready to say what's on his mind.
long distance relationships can be very hard. dont put more effort in it than he is. you said you've been calling and calling and he's not returning the favor. quit calling, see what happens. you're still young, why not date people who are local.
HE MIGHT NOT GET GOOD RESEPTION OR HES JUST TRYING TO BOND WITH HIS DAD HE COULD HAVE FORGOT HIS CHARGER AND CANT CALL OR HIS PHONE COULD B OFF
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I need an advice on my long distance relationship.... Please help!!!!?
iam in a long distance relationship with a girl. she is working in an MNC in Delhi. We used to work together and that is where are relation started off. The problem now is that being far away from her, i miss her a lot. I like talking to her , but she says she cannot talk for long. Plus, she is very careless about about our relationship and i usually feel neglected or left out. I have tried alot to stay in the relationship, but its very frustrating to stay like this. I love her alot and dont want to loose her, but she says that she cant change herself, she is how she is,. please help.I need an advice on my long distance relationship.... Please help!!!!?
Got to expain or inform her about all of your thoughts %26amp; feelings concerning her and the relationship, which you truely desire. If she wants to pursue it, then go for it, but is not then accept it and move on with your social life.
Got to expain or inform her about all of your thoughts %26amp; feelings concerning her and the relationship, which you truely desire. If she wants to pursue it, then go for it, but is not then accept it and move on with your social life.
I need some advice about my long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Please somebody?
I'm 17 years old, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now, but we don't live near each other and consequently see each other about once a month when we spend about a week together, we also talk nearly everyday on the phone. At the beginig of the relationship everything seemed perfect but recently we've been arguing alot about silly little things. I also find that he can be really jealous when I go out with my friends and he texts me to see where I am and what I'm doing. I know he loves me, and that he would do anything for me, but now I really don't know what to do. If i'm having second thoughts does that mean that we shouldn't be together? Also in September I'm going to uni next to him, so it won't be long distance for much longer. I do still love him but i'm so confused, i've talked to him about this but he begged me for another chance...please help me!I need some advice about my long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Please somebody?
well the way i see it, why not give him another chance. long distance relationships can be very very hard to keep, seeing that you guys live so far away from one another, you each have to depend on each other's communication until you can both get the time to see each other, so it's obvious that you have to use the time that you do have on the phone very very valuable, so what i suggest is that you talk to him about his insecurities that he has, and the excess arguments that you both have and tell him that you really want the relationship to work but he needs to lay off the jealousy, and be able to trust you seeing that he would need too in order for the relationship to really work out, it's not like you guys can see each other whenever you want too, so he really have to trust you.Also try it until September, remind him that pretty soon you;ll be closer to him and you guys won't have so much pressure on the relationship b/c of the distance anymore.Reassure him that things can work out with a little effort on his part too.GL.I need some advice about my long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Please somebody?
Jealousy is never a good sign. It implies that trust, a fundamental requirement for a healthy relationship, is missing.
And begging for another chance is called manipulation.
Surely there is someone for him when he gets a handle on his own emotions, and it might even be you, but it is time to experience more of life for both of you.
if he is begging for another chance ,I take it you told him to take a hike. A relationship is based on trust------ the distance makes it interesting. if he lived next door and acted the same way---- what would change? if he cannot trust you or vice versa, distance does not matter. If you two care about each other you need to commit to whatever it takes to make YOUR relationship work. Notice the word YOUR, because it is yours and no one elses. hope this has helped. Best of luck to both of you.
Don't choose a college based on a guy. If it is meant to be then it will be. But don't force it. It sounds like this relationship is really stressing you out. I know how you feel. My best friend and I are in love but he lives a thousand miles away so we decided to remain friends until we can actually be together. But do not allow your relationship with him determine your education.
Long distance relationships can be very frustrating. Having 2nd thoughts is normal, wait until you see him before you make up your mind.
Do anything for you? Then why doesn't he trust you? I hope u work it out but some jealous people never change so stay alert.
stay with him and see what happens just wait confront him about his jealousy problems again later on
You are 17...you both live far away...GET REAL!
sorry but they never work
Anna...silly man thing...I think we men are all a little afraid we are not the main focus....yes we are a silly lot at times....I am in a worse situation...My love is in the UK...I am much older than you both...but the same things sometimes apply....we have opposite probs...but the same...you have to give him a chance....think about it...how would it be in ten years...if you started to wonder...hmmmm...was he the one...Give it a chance....you will then have a clearer view of what to do...dump him,love him...would be your choice!...
I have to smile....I am old enough to be your Grandfather....but remember those problems...some things get better as get older...some things don't....learn to deal with the things that don't...every thing else is just a plus...bye
ron
If you are uncomfortable now with the way he is treating you, and you are long distance, it will be a lot worse when you are closer together. It sounds like the guy has some insecurity issues. I would be very cautious with this relationship...what ever you do do not get pregnant. That will be a disaster. I would try to stay cool with the relationship, and if he gets more demanding and possessive, break it off. You may need some support after the break off...I can see him hassling you and wanting contact with you afterwards. If you do not want any contact make sure that you go through the right channels.
Don't get too involved with this guy - it sounds like he has jealousy and control issues. That is not something you want to put up with long term. If he won't let you have the freedom to see your friends now, it will be worse when he is closer to you. You are young, don't commit to one guy too soon. Uni will change who you are and everything in your life will change. You should have the freedom to explore who you are and your new life without some guy wanting every minute of your time. Good luck.
First of all, let me ease your mind by letting you know why all this is going on: HE'S FALLEN IN-LOVE WITH YOU!!! He's frustrated that he can't see you more often, that he can't express to you on a daily basis all that he feels. He just wants to be able to do the simple things like hold your hand, and stare into your eyes as often as possible.
Try to be patient with him. If you really love him, let him know. There's an old saying: ';Out of sight, out of mind';, and another ';When the cat's away, the mice will play';. That means that if he's not with you, he can't trust you to be faithful. That's what he's afraid of, because he truly cares about being with you.
My advice would be to write him love letters. These are tangible things he can pull out as often as he misses you. They will help you both deal with still being apart for now. It sounds too simple to work, but it really does.
Good luck in college, and good luck with him.
well the way i see it, why not give him another chance. long distance relationships can be very very hard to keep, seeing that you guys live so far away from one another, you each have to depend on each other's communication until you can both get the time to see each other, so it's obvious that you have to use the time that you do have on the phone very very valuable, so what i suggest is that you talk to him about his insecurities that he has, and the excess arguments that you both have and tell him that you really want the relationship to work but he needs to lay off the jealousy, and be able to trust you seeing that he would need too in order for the relationship to really work out, it's not like you guys can see each other whenever you want too, so he really have to trust you.Also try it until September, remind him that pretty soon you;ll be closer to him and you guys won't have so much pressure on the relationship b/c of the distance anymore.Reassure him that things can work out with a little effort on his part too.GL.I need some advice about my long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Please somebody?
Jealousy is never a good sign. It implies that trust, a fundamental requirement for a healthy relationship, is missing.
And begging for another chance is called manipulation.
Surely there is someone for him when he gets a handle on his own emotions, and it might even be you, but it is time to experience more of life for both of you.
if he is begging for another chance ,I take it you told him to take a hike. A relationship is based on trust------ the distance makes it interesting. if he lived next door and acted the same way---- what would change? if he cannot trust you or vice versa, distance does not matter. If you two care about each other you need to commit to whatever it takes to make YOUR relationship work. Notice the word YOUR, because it is yours and no one elses. hope this has helped. Best of luck to both of you.
Don't choose a college based on a guy. If it is meant to be then it will be. But don't force it. It sounds like this relationship is really stressing you out. I know how you feel. My best friend and I are in love but he lives a thousand miles away so we decided to remain friends until we can actually be together. But do not allow your relationship with him determine your education.
Long distance relationships can be very frustrating. Having 2nd thoughts is normal, wait until you see him before you make up your mind.
Do anything for you? Then why doesn't he trust you? I hope u work it out but some jealous people never change so stay alert.
stay with him and see what happens just wait confront him about his jealousy problems again later on
You are 17...you both live far away...GET REAL!
sorry but they never work
Anna...silly man thing...I think we men are all a little afraid we are not the main focus....yes we are a silly lot at times....I am in a worse situation...My love is in the UK...I am much older than you both...but the same things sometimes apply....we have opposite probs...but the same...you have to give him a chance....think about it...how would it be in ten years...if you started to wonder...hmmmm...was he the one...Give it a chance....you will then have a clearer view of what to do...dump him,love him...would be your choice!...
I have to smile....I am old enough to be your Grandfather....but remember those problems...some things get better as get older...some things don't....learn to deal with the things that don't...every thing else is just a plus...bye
ron
If you are uncomfortable now with the way he is treating you, and you are long distance, it will be a lot worse when you are closer together. It sounds like the guy has some insecurity issues. I would be very cautious with this relationship...what ever you do do not get pregnant. That will be a disaster. I would try to stay cool with the relationship, and if he gets more demanding and possessive, break it off. You may need some support after the break off...I can see him hassling you and wanting contact with you afterwards. If you do not want any contact make sure that you go through the right channels.
Don't get too involved with this guy - it sounds like he has jealousy and control issues. That is not something you want to put up with long term. If he won't let you have the freedom to see your friends now, it will be worse when he is closer to you. You are young, don't commit to one guy too soon. Uni will change who you are and everything in your life will change. You should have the freedom to explore who you are and your new life without some guy wanting every minute of your time. Good luck.
First of all, let me ease your mind by letting you know why all this is going on: HE'S FALLEN IN-LOVE WITH YOU!!! He's frustrated that he can't see you more often, that he can't express to you on a daily basis all that he feels. He just wants to be able to do the simple things like hold your hand, and stare into your eyes as often as possible.
Try to be patient with him. If you really love him, let him know. There's an old saying: ';Out of sight, out of mind';, and another ';When the cat's away, the mice will play';. That means that if he's not with you, he can't trust you to be faithful. That's what he's afraid of, because he truly cares about being with you.
My advice would be to write him love letters. These are tangible things he can pull out as often as he misses you. They will help you both deal with still being apart for now. It sounds too simple to work, but it really does.
Good luck in college, and good luck with him.
Any one ever been in a long distance relationship that worked? And what advice can you give?
my parents were opn a long distance relationship for about 2 years when my dad was in the navy.
they worked out, got married, had kids. they broke up 15 years later for a totally different reason though.
all you can really do is have alot of trust, and just be faithful. it is hard, but it can work. =)Any one ever been in a long distance relationship that worked? And what advice can you give?
I'm in a long distance relationship. We live 14 hours and 742 miles apart and we've only spent almost 3 weeks together in person out of our 10 month relationship. It's really hard and takes very special people to do it. You have to trust that person with everything you have and not give them a reason not to trust you. You have to have communication and can't keep secrets and you just have to be willing to wait. When you find a good thing, you're willing to wait for it. And people say that me and him have a better relationship than some people that live in the same house together. It's just a matter of how bad you want it and trusting the other person and yourself. I always said I wouldn't be in one...that was before I met him. Hope I helped%26lt;3Any one ever been in a long distance relationship that worked? And what advice can you give?
i told someone i wouldn't be in long distance relationship, because, there's to much of a chance , someones going to end up cheating. her response, ';typical male.';
That's hard.....because you don't know what that person is doing or what that person isn't doing. Some people do things that they wish that they didn't do.
they worked out, got married, had kids. they broke up 15 years later for a totally different reason though.
all you can really do is have alot of trust, and just be faithful. it is hard, but it can work. =)Any one ever been in a long distance relationship that worked? And what advice can you give?
I'm in a long distance relationship. We live 14 hours and 742 miles apart and we've only spent almost 3 weeks together in person out of our 10 month relationship. It's really hard and takes very special people to do it. You have to trust that person with everything you have and not give them a reason not to trust you. You have to have communication and can't keep secrets and you just have to be willing to wait. When you find a good thing, you're willing to wait for it. And people say that me and him have a better relationship than some people that live in the same house together. It's just a matter of how bad you want it and trusting the other person and yourself. I always said I wouldn't be in one...that was before I met him. Hope I helped%26lt;3Any one ever been in a long distance relationship that worked? And what advice can you give?
i told someone i wouldn't be in long distance relationship, because, there's to much of a chance , someones going to end up cheating. her response, ';typical male.';
That's hard.....because you don't know what that person is doing or what that person isn't doing. Some people do things that they wish that they didn't do.
I need advice on my long distance relationship?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 years. We have had some rough patches and have broken up 2 times. He currently is half way across the country. While he was home he drank a lot of beer. I was always there for for him to make sure nothing horrible happened. Now that he is away I can not control the situation. I think he drinks too much and I don't know how to be okay about it. He loves me soooo much but will not drink a little less for me. I don't expect him to stop. I just want to be okay with it. I need some advice on how to cope with it. I don't want to leave him cause he is the most amazing man in the world but I need to stop stressing about his drinking. Please if you have any advice ........ lemme know.I need advice on my long distance relationship?
I do have some advice, yet probably not too different from anyone else's - especially family / friends. 2 points.
1. He's not going to stop, or slow down, the problematic drinking for you, or anyone else, unfortunately. Not even for the Pope, his mother or Jesus H. Christ himself. He is only going to do that for himself - if and when he is ready. Hopefully something inside him with motivate him. He may love you deeply, but that isn't enough.
2. You aren't going to be ';okay with it';. You may find ways to cope and deal with it, but you will stress with it, as you most likely are now. However, you may in time simply ';accept'; all this; yet that would be a shame.
3.Unfortunately, we usually can't control the actions of others - only our own.
4. Good luckI need advice on my long distance relationship?
he is an alcoholic. send him anonymous ';Alchoholics anonymous'; emails for his local chapter
Instead of titling this advice on long distant relationships, you should have titled it how to deal with alcohalic loved ones. You should be prepared for when he moves back to where you are and he is an alcohalic...sorry but I don't have any advice but to keep in touch with him while he is away, talk about normal things and little things that are going on in your life that he might be interested in knowing....keeping that spark alive. Good luck.
He is the one who has to deal with it and the possible results. If he won't stop drinking then no one else is to blame if something bad happens. He needs to learn to be responsible and maybe this is a good chance for him to learn something.
I do have some advice, yet probably not too different from anyone else's - especially family / friends. 2 points.
1. He's not going to stop, or slow down, the problematic drinking for you, or anyone else, unfortunately. Not even for the Pope, his mother or Jesus H. Christ himself. He is only going to do that for himself - if and when he is ready. Hopefully something inside him with motivate him. He may love you deeply, but that isn't enough.
2. You aren't going to be ';okay with it';. You may find ways to cope and deal with it, but you will stress with it, as you most likely are now. However, you may in time simply ';accept'; all this; yet that would be a shame.
3.Unfortunately, we usually can't control the actions of others - only our own.
4. Good luckI need advice on my long distance relationship?
he is an alcoholic. send him anonymous ';Alchoholics anonymous'; emails for his local chapter
Instead of titling this advice on long distant relationships, you should have titled it how to deal with alcohalic loved ones. You should be prepared for when he moves back to where you are and he is an alcohalic...sorry but I don't have any advice but to keep in touch with him while he is away, talk about normal things and little things that are going on in your life that he might be interested in knowing....keeping that spark alive. Good luck.
He is the one who has to deal with it and the possible results. If he won't stop drinking then no one else is to blame if something bad happens. He needs to learn to be responsible and maybe this is a good chance for him to learn something.
I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
Imagine, you meet a girl from another state, start talking on the phone and begin to form a close bond. You begin to talk every single night for hours. You like everything about this person. Next, you meet her. It's been 6 months, and when you meet, sparks fly so to speak. You stay in a hotel and have a little fun. You love this girl very much, so does she. Departing sucks, but the thought of meeting again keeps things strong. This goes on for another year,you've been to her town and she's been to yours quite a few times. Then, you go to different colleges, putting you even farther away than before. She starts to get pissed when you put school over her sometimes and start fighting even tho you have never fought much before. Things get worse. School becomes stressful, and you start drifting away. You don't talk for a while, then she calls you drunk telling you she found someone else and they already had sex! What should you do? You still love her very much.I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
What you should do is move on. She was actually sending you some very obvious signs way before she let the hammer fall.I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
You need to ask yourself where is your relationship going?
Because (not to sound completely psychoanalytical or something), despite the fact that you have maintained a relationship, you are focusing on college from what it sounds like. I'm not suggesting to do anything completely radical, but there is going to be a point of no return in your relationship, and whatever decision you will make will determine whether or not you will stay together. I would highly suggest trying to make it work if you still love her, but if you're trying to make something work that might not have meant to be, then just let it go and be happy without a long distance relationship. It will be hard at first, but if you think about it, if she meant what she drunk dialed you about, than maybe it just wasn't something that was meant to be.
go find a local girl and forget about her.
well, id tell he to *beep* off personally... i don't think its working out if its gone to that extent, you could try calling her, talking to her to find out for sure but i think its probably over.. sorry man
I'm sorry, but you really need to think about this one. How strong is a relationship that prompts someone to ';get pissed when you put school over her sometimes'; and then ';she calls you drunk telling you she found someone else and they already had sex!';
She didn't obviously care that your education was important to you, and it was a TEMPORARY thing, where SHE could be PERMANENT. If she saw the big picture, and herself in it, she would have supported your goals. But she didn't.
If she slept with someone else before calling it quits with you properly, she was probably looking around for a bit. He might not have been the first. I'm sorry to say that, but it's most likely true.
If she's meant to be the one, she will be back and none of this will matter, but it SHOULD matter. Trust is hard to get back once it's broken. Only you know if you can trust her after this, and how strong your feelings are.
I wish you the best of luck.
Well, I'm in a LDR too, and we started only 350 miles away... and now we are 2,700 miles away. It's hard.
But really, our relationship is built on communication and trust. School is REALLY tough for me right now too... but we never lost that communication thing [[we still talk on the phone for hours every night]], and that's what I think happened to you guys.
But nonetheless, this is still CHEATING and it is evident that she wants to move on. I know this is painful, and I know it's hard to let go of the person you love.
But really, a LDR cannot happen without lots and lots of trust. And obviously now, that is gone.
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. You need to break it off, and find someone [[local or not]] who will be empathetic to your school situation, who will communicate with you, and who will be faithful and honest to you unconditionally. Decide that you deserve better.
You should wait til a time when the two of you can (or want to) share the same county. Then if the passion is still there on both sides go for it!
Tell her bye! bye! bye! I also think that more communication would help...You should have calmly communicated with eachother about your disagreements/problems. Never leave the conversation angry or unresolved...;)
That's why I don't like long distance relationships... it is very hard. You guys spend less time together and creates more stress. If I were you, I would just stay friends with her because if it is meant to happen, it will happen. Just let things flow my friend.
Have you ever heard the saying, it is better to be alone and have pride and respect for yourself, then to be with someone not worthy of you? Well let me tell you this sweetie, as sad as this situation she really doesn't have the right priorities in mind. School is the most important aspect right now, girls come and go but what you must understand is that education and a good degree will get you far in life. She seems to me the person that wants to have fun, and lacks the ability to be responsible, if she could easily just get drunk and have sex, this is just the beginning after a year. Think of what she can do as the relationship develops and she realizes this is not what she wants. If i were you, I would be happy that you figured out what type of person she is NOW, before it got majorly serious. If I were you, I would just let her go, and keep your pride. If you really love her, you need to call her and ask her what she wants, when she is sober. If she apologizes and tries to make an effort with you, you could forgive her. However I think that she is the type of people who can't handle distance and who are looking for fun now, and don't think about tomorrow. She must really not be that attached to you, as sad as I am to say this. YOu can do much better, why do you want a girl that will treat you like this? Good luck hun!!
Well my advice is that it's good you love her, but I think that you should get over her because that is a red flag saying that she doesn't have commitment to your relationship. She says she moved on and you should get back at her and get a rebound.
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You can do this, call her and talk to her and apologize even if u didn't do anything wrong. Girls like it when they are right.
Tell her over and over that u love her and ur not over her.
I'm sure she'll get back with you...............
if she had the guts to go and cheat on you,that aint love bro.that jjust aint love.
You shouldn't make yourself crazy obsessing over it. You guys had something very special, but it didn't work out, and I know it's sad, but it's part of life. I would say it's best to move on, focus on school, spend free time with friends, and try to meet some new girls. I know that's hard to do, but time helps everything. Don't wait for her to come to her senses, because unfortunately, the odds are, she won't. You guys might be able to be friends, but that might take some time, so just spend some time enjoying being young and in college.
I would try to break it up with her at least for a little while. You both are in college. You need to go out there, figure out who you really are, concentrate on school and meet/ date other people to make sure you two are meant for each other. It sounds like she is frustrated with the situation and rather A. Really has moved on or B. was just trying to make you jealous. I would break it off for a while. It will give you both time to think if you do want to be together. If you guys are meant to be then it will happen. Good luck!
move on and long distance relationship usually doesnt really work..
well if she is the kind of person that goes off and gets drunk with other guys and if that is the kind of person u want to keep a relationship with then go for it but to me she doent seen like the kind of person you can trust where if she said she is working late she is not cheeting on you so if you like that kind of person go for it if she is the king of person u dont trust then dont talk to her
What you should do is move on. She was actually sending you some very obvious signs way before she let the hammer fall.I need advice about a long distance relationship.?
You need to ask yourself where is your relationship going?
Because (not to sound completely psychoanalytical or something), despite the fact that you have maintained a relationship, you are focusing on college from what it sounds like. I'm not suggesting to do anything completely radical, but there is going to be a point of no return in your relationship, and whatever decision you will make will determine whether or not you will stay together. I would highly suggest trying to make it work if you still love her, but if you're trying to make something work that might not have meant to be, then just let it go and be happy without a long distance relationship. It will be hard at first, but if you think about it, if she meant what she drunk dialed you about, than maybe it just wasn't something that was meant to be.
go find a local girl and forget about her.
well, id tell he to *beep* off personally... i don't think its working out if its gone to that extent, you could try calling her, talking to her to find out for sure but i think its probably over.. sorry man
I'm sorry, but you really need to think about this one. How strong is a relationship that prompts someone to ';get pissed when you put school over her sometimes'; and then ';she calls you drunk telling you she found someone else and they already had sex!';
She didn't obviously care that your education was important to you, and it was a TEMPORARY thing, where SHE could be PERMANENT. If she saw the big picture, and herself in it, she would have supported your goals. But she didn't.
If she slept with someone else before calling it quits with you properly, she was probably looking around for a bit. He might not have been the first. I'm sorry to say that, but it's most likely true.
If she's meant to be the one, she will be back and none of this will matter, but it SHOULD matter. Trust is hard to get back once it's broken. Only you know if you can trust her after this, and how strong your feelings are.
I wish you the best of luck.
Well, I'm in a LDR too, and we started only 350 miles away... and now we are 2,700 miles away. It's hard.
But really, our relationship is built on communication and trust. School is REALLY tough for me right now too... but we never lost that communication thing [[we still talk on the phone for hours every night]], and that's what I think happened to you guys.
But nonetheless, this is still CHEATING and it is evident that she wants to move on. I know this is painful, and I know it's hard to let go of the person you love.
But really, a LDR cannot happen without lots and lots of trust. And obviously now, that is gone.
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. You need to break it off, and find someone [[local or not]] who will be empathetic to your school situation, who will communicate with you, and who will be faithful and honest to you unconditionally. Decide that you deserve better.
You should wait til a time when the two of you can (or want to) share the same county. Then if the passion is still there on both sides go for it!
Tell her bye! bye! bye! I also think that more communication would help...You should have calmly communicated with eachother about your disagreements/problems. Never leave the conversation angry or unresolved...;)
That's why I don't like long distance relationships... it is very hard. You guys spend less time together and creates more stress. If I were you, I would just stay friends with her because if it is meant to happen, it will happen. Just let things flow my friend.
Have you ever heard the saying, it is better to be alone and have pride and respect for yourself, then to be with someone not worthy of you? Well let me tell you this sweetie, as sad as this situation she really doesn't have the right priorities in mind. School is the most important aspect right now, girls come and go but what you must understand is that education and a good degree will get you far in life. She seems to me the person that wants to have fun, and lacks the ability to be responsible, if she could easily just get drunk and have sex, this is just the beginning after a year. Think of what she can do as the relationship develops and she realizes this is not what she wants. If i were you, I would be happy that you figured out what type of person she is NOW, before it got majorly serious. If I were you, I would just let her go, and keep your pride. If you really love her, you need to call her and ask her what she wants, when she is sober. If she apologizes and tries to make an effort with you, you could forgive her. However I think that she is the type of people who can't handle distance and who are looking for fun now, and don't think about tomorrow. She must really not be that attached to you, as sad as I am to say this. YOu can do much better, why do you want a girl that will treat you like this? Good luck hun!!
Well my advice is that it's good you love her, but I think that you should get over her because that is a red flag saying that she doesn't have commitment to your relationship. She says she moved on and you should get back at her and get a rebound.
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You can do this, call her and talk to her and apologize even if u didn't do anything wrong. Girls like it when they are right.
Tell her over and over that u love her and ur not over her.
I'm sure she'll get back with you...............
if she had the guts to go and cheat on you,that aint love bro.that jjust aint love.
You shouldn't make yourself crazy obsessing over it. You guys had something very special, but it didn't work out, and I know it's sad, but it's part of life. I would say it's best to move on, focus on school, spend free time with friends, and try to meet some new girls. I know that's hard to do, but time helps everything. Don't wait for her to come to her senses, because unfortunately, the odds are, she won't. You guys might be able to be friends, but that might take some time, so just spend some time enjoying being young and in college.
I would try to break it up with her at least for a little while. You both are in college. You need to go out there, figure out who you really are, concentrate on school and meet/ date other people to make sure you two are meant for each other. It sounds like she is frustrated with the situation and rather A. Really has moved on or B. was just trying to make you jealous. I would break it off for a while. It will give you both time to think if you do want to be together. If you guys are meant to be then it will happen. Good luck!
move on and long distance relationship usually doesnt really work..
well if she is the kind of person that goes off and gets drunk with other guys and if that is the kind of person u want to keep a relationship with then go for it but to me she doent seen like the kind of person you can trust where if she said she is working late she is not cheeting on you so if you like that kind of person go for it if she is the king of person u dont trust then dont talk to her
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