To all parents out there: If your daughter/son is in a long distance love relationship what would you advice your daughter/son on how to make his/her fiance/fiancee feel love? even if they are miles and miles apart. Please give examples, if you could.If you are a parent, what would you advice your daughter if she is in a long distance love relationship?
If she is really in love the distance is going to make that feeling stronger. It is very romantic situation and probably she will feel like no body will stop her love... not only the distance.
If you are worried about her leaving you... you must start thinking that the goal of the parents is to let the kids when they are prepared to fly alone. Trust on your values and education!
If you are worried about the potential damage that the distance can make on the relationship... I think is the same in any relationship. Let the things to happen... that is part of her experience.
But just let her know that you are there for her. A friend to listen to her worries and a mother to comfort her heart.If you are a parent, what would you advice your daughter if she is in a long distance love relationship?
Hi My name is Ana and if i were the mother of the daughter i would tell her there are more guys out there and i am sure if she wanted she would find a boy in were she lives there are pleanty of fish out there .
She can send letters. Sometimes it easier to express how you feel on paper. You can say things you really want to say when your with that special someone.
Make certain days or nights, the nights that they call each other, or chat online at certain times.
However it also depends on how old this couple are.
If they are mere children, I wouldnt promote very much as they neednt feel tied down to just one person. They are still learning about themselves.
send small care packages once every two weeks besides talking on the phone. just have to put things like a picture, a letter, and something like cookies, something to remind the person far away of something they did together or shared. even just a small note a few times a week can make a difference, and bond them.
The best advise I ever got was to not date someone I was not willing to marry. Long distance isn't bad, but dating someone you don't see yourself with is a mistake. If you date them you might fall in love. If you fall in love and get married and find yourself in a place you don't want to be.
My advise to you is as a Mom or Dad is not to give your kids unsolicited advise, unless she is still a minor.
It really depends on whether the couple have met each other or not. If they haven't yet met, then it's not the real thing in my opinion. It's more of an infatuation of an image of the person. I've known people that fall in love online and then meet and are not at all attracted to each other. It's part fantasy till you have the eye to eye thing. So I'd advise my son/daughter to hold back and concentrate on meeting as soon as possible.
As far as how to show love while apart....communication works. Send letters, make calls. Send each other little gifts and pictures. Baked items mailed is a nice touch too. Military couples have done all this for years.
need more info on this. have they met? how long have they known each other? why are they apart?
There are different ways to show your love in a long distance relationship. Computer access is so easy now-a-days and the biggest website is www.myspace.com. They can both set up a free profile with them and send each other emails, messages, graphics, and tons of other stuff.
You can have flowers sent to someone, write letters in the regular mail (because it gives them something to look forward to), send pictures, if you have a video camera you can make a video and send it. If you like making things you can make your own home made cards to send, a scrapbook full of pictures of when they were together, or even a scrapbook full of love letters.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
How to survive in a long distance relationship? Good advices?
I am so into my boyfriend but we just started out this long distance relationship as he had to do an intern in Dubai.We were living together till he had to make the move for awhile .I went to Dubai to visit him for a month and got back a month ago.I miss him terribly! All I wanna do is call him and text him and if he does not text me first thing he gets up i get upset.I have not been myself and this is not who i want to be.He know the real me and it's a confident and independant women.Now eversince the long distance i think about what he's doing.My ex hurt me really bad so it bothers me .And I try not to get so bothered.I know my boyfriend is trustworthy but still I let the past bother me.How do I improve the relationship and make our long distance a happier one?I want him to be the one that misses me more. How do we fire it up?And what are the ways to tolerate the distance?How to survive in a long distance relationship? Good advices?
You have a couple of issues here: you are afraid of being abandoned like in a past relationship, you have trust issues and you want to know logistics of keeping a long distance relationship alive.
First, you need to deal with your insecurities about abandonment and trust. To do that, you need to talk with him about it and feel reassured. As others have said, there are ways of keeping frequent communication through the computer (web cams work really well too as well as the yahoo instant messenger with voice)...but don't overlook the most simple method...handwritten love letters.
A love letter is very special because you can bring it with you anywhere. You can read it over and over again. Being handwritten has a personal element too...it shows you care. If you can both agree to send each other a love letter once in a while that will also help as reassurance.How to survive in a long distance relationship? Good advices?
I think all you really need to do is remember how you feel about each other. Distance can be hard but if you begin to think he is just like your last boyfriend then you will wind up creating something that isn't. Just remember no matter what he is not your ex. Do not make him out to be him.
You could talk to each other and do web cam on messenger, so you could see each other. You could also send or text pictures of yourselves to each other to see each other. Call each other more. Count down the days till you get to see each other again. I hope some of this helps.
I was in the military for a while so I know about long distance relationships. Complicated and hard work are the few adjectives that come to mind! I think your general insecurity is what is bothering you. That is about you and not your relationship or boyfriend. Find out what the core of that is and work on that.
As far as the long distance thing goes their is a saying - distance makes the heart grow founder. I would say that is true at first in most long distance relationships, but then it usually turns into the saying ';out of sight, out of mind';.
Best luck- make sure you understand it is going to be a challenge that both of you have to be comfortable with overcoming.good makeup bridal makeup
You have a couple of issues here: you are afraid of being abandoned like in a past relationship, you have trust issues and you want to know logistics of keeping a long distance relationship alive.
First, you need to deal with your insecurities about abandonment and trust. To do that, you need to talk with him about it and feel reassured. As others have said, there are ways of keeping frequent communication through the computer (web cams work really well too as well as the yahoo instant messenger with voice)...but don't overlook the most simple method...handwritten love letters.
A love letter is very special because you can bring it with you anywhere. You can read it over and over again. Being handwritten has a personal element too...it shows you care. If you can both agree to send each other a love letter once in a while that will also help as reassurance.How to survive in a long distance relationship? Good advices?
I think all you really need to do is remember how you feel about each other. Distance can be hard but if you begin to think he is just like your last boyfriend then you will wind up creating something that isn't. Just remember no matter what he is not your ex. Do not make him out to be him.
You could talk to each other and do web cam on messenger, so you could see each other. You could also send or text pictures of yourselves to each other to see each other. Call each other more. Count down the days till you get to see each other again. I hope some of this helps.
I was in the military for a while so I know about long distance relationships. Complicated and hard work are the few adjectives that come to mind! I think your general insecurity is what is bothering you. That is about you and not your relationship or boyfriend. Find out what the core of that is and work on that.
As far as the long distance thing goes their is a saying - distance makes the heart grow founder. I would say that is true at first in most long distance relationships, but then it usually turns into the saying ';out of sight, out of mind';.
Best luck- make sure you understand it is going to be a challenge that both of you have to be comfortable with overcoming.
Falling in love with a girl that is in a long distance relationship. Desperately in need of advice.?
Here's the situation:
I've met this girl in my workplace and after some time we became close friends. One day, I learned that she had a boyfriend in another country and that she has been in a long distance relationship for 1 year and a half more or less. She talks to him through internet everyday and seems to really love the guy. However, since they live in different countries they hardly see each other personally. She travelled there only once and stayed for less than 2 weeks and came back.
Well, she is 21 and I am 24. I deeply care for her and I'm in love with her. I haven't told anything yet because I have to respect this relationship. But in the other hand, this is killing me inside. If I open up with her, this might ruin our friendship. If don't tell her, I'll be hurt. I cannot avoid her since we work together and we're forced to see each other. I really don't want to destroy our friendship. My question is: what can I do? Has anyone experienced something similar? Please help.Falling in love with a girl that is in a long distance relationship. Desperately in need of advice.?
Well, I've been in a couple of long distance relationships, both lasted a little over a year, but it didn't last. Long distance relationships are hard to keep. Honestly I can tell you now that you do have a great chance to steal her heart. Basically, even thou she loves this other guy a woman loves to be touched, held, wined and dined and so on. What I suggest you do is to just be there for her. What I mean by that is, don't be one of her girlfriends be a MAN friend. Don't give her all our time but give her attention when she needs it. Always know the stats of her long distance relationship. Let her feel so comfortable with you that she opens up to you about how she feels. Let her know that you care about her (don't tell her you love her YET), you can show her you love her without telling her. Trust me girls have a sixth sense, we know when a guy is feeling us. Eventually, if she likes you or love you she'll be all yours. But I also suggest that you continue dating other people, but be open with her also.Falling in love with a girl that is in a long distance relationship. Desperately in need of advice.?
Love is love...
All's fair in love and war...
It's up to you...
If you tell her how you feel, she may return her feelings, but continue with the long distance relationship.(which her long distance relationship may fail...sooner or later)
If you don't tell her how you feel, you die on the inside and live your life never knowing what she would have said.
Just tell her.
If you do, then yeah itll be awkward for a bit, but youll get it off your chest
go on a lunch date with a few other employes and see what she thanks
Make a move, she'll realize that if she continuously pulls back from REAL people, she'd be wasting her time with that other dude... just tell her how you feel over the phone.
I would just let her go, if she has been with him lomger she loves him.
well i can tell you to go for it i mean they cant even touch each other what harm could he do but I'm going to honest its were her heart is she could be with you but still thinking about him what happens if you fall in love and she decides to live and be with him just let it go their are other fish in the sea understand you need some one to give you 100percent nothing less because your worth it.
im sorry for you, unrequited love is the worst. dont say anything to her, be silent with your love, just be there for her, one day if you still truly love her, she will need you, and maybe she will see on her own that the long distance relationship is going no where. it has to be up to her, not you, yes you love her, dont let your love for her hurt her too. right now its only you that hurts, if you speak up, its two or three people that hurt. you dont want that on your conscience. besides, you might just want to try to get over her, its easier if she doesnt know. good luck. i hope it all works out.
Long disrance relationsips are had to have believe me I have had one a long time ago and now I am back with that person. But if you like her a lot I think that you should tell her but in a settle way. Do you flirt a lot with each other? Cause if you do you could make a joke about it. Just tell her the truth and be honest with her cause girls love that.
I've met this girl in my workplace and after some time we became close friends. One day, I learned that she had a boyfriend in another country and that she has been in a long distance relationship for 1 year and a half more or less. She talks to him through internet everyday and seems to really love the guy. However, since they live in different countries they hardly see each other personally. She travelled there only once and stayed for less than 2 weeks and came back.
Well, she is 21 and I am 24. I deeply care for her and I'm in love with her. I haven't told anything yet because I have to respect this relationship. But in the other hand, this is killing me inside. If I open up with her, this might ruin our friendship. If don't tell her, I'll be hurt. I cannot avoid her since we work together and we're forced to see each other. I really don't want to destroy our friendship. My question is: what can I do? Has anyone experienced something similar? Please help.Falling in love with a girl that is in a long distance relationship. Desperately in need of advice.?
Well, I've been in a couple of long distance relationships, both lasted a little over a year, but it didn't last. Long distance relationships are hard to keep. Honestly I can tell you now that you do have a great chance to steal her heart. Basically, even thou she loves this other guy a woman loves to be touched, held, wined and dined and so on. What I suggest you do is to just be there for her. What I mean by that is, don't be one of her girlfriends be a MAN friend. Don't give her all our time but give her attention when she needs it. Always know the stats of her long distance relationship. Let her feel so comfortable with you that she opens up to you about how she feels. Let her know that you care about her (don't tell her you love her YET), you can show her you love her without telling her. Trust me girls have a sixth sense, we know when a guy is feeling us. Eventually, if she likes you or love you she'll be all yours. But I also suggest that you continue dating other people, but be open with her also.Falling in love with a girl that is in a long distance relationship. Desperately in need of advice.?
Love is love...
All's fair in love and war...
It's up to you...
If you tell her how you feel, she may return her feelings, but continue with the long distance relationship.(which her long distance relationship may fail...sooner or later)
If you don't tell her how you feel, you die on the inside and live your life never knowing what she would have said.
Just tell her.
If you do, then yeah itll be awkward for a bit, but youll get it off your chest
go on a lunch date with a few other employes and see what she thanks
Make a move, she'll realize that if she continuously pulls back from REAL people, she'd be wasting her time with that other dude... just tell her how you feel over the phone.
I would just let her go, if she has been with him lomger she loves him.
well i can tell you to go for it i mean they cant even touch each other what harm could he do but I'm going to honest its were her heart is she could be with you but still thinking about him what happens if you fall in love and she decides to live and be with him just let it go their are other fish in the sea understand you need some one to give you 100percent nothing less because your worth it.
im sorry for you, unrequited love is the worst. dont say anything to her, be silent with your love, just be there for her, one day if you still truly love her, she will need you, and maybe she will see on her own that the long distance relationship is going no where. it has to be up to her, not you, yes you love her, dont let your love for her hurt her too. right now its only you that hurts, if you speak up, its two or three people that hurt. you dont want that on your conscience. besides, you might just want to try to get over her, its easier if she doesnt know. good luck. i hope it all works out.
Long disrance relationsips are had to have believe me I have had one a long time ago and now I am back with that person. But if you like her a lot I think that you should tell her but in a settle way. Do you flirt a lot with each other? Cause if you do you could make a joke about it. Just tell her the truth and be honest with her cause girls love that.
Meeting a virgo tonight for the 1st time, after an online long distance relationship (Please read) Any advice?
We have been talking online for about 2 years now. Got really close. I know I am the only woman in his life.
And I am meeting him tonight for the first time.
I drove here 3 days ago, stayed at a friend. We were suppose to meet the night I got here, but I got here too late. The next day I text him (We text more then calling, because he hates to talk on the phone. We did talked on the phone, often. Just that he prefer texts) and he is having one of these typical virgo ';i'm nervous'; moment. I understand, Next day, he message me, saying he wants me to go at his house, I ask when, he say tomorrow (aka tonight) and I tell him to text me when he can meet me somewhere to help me get to his house because the directions I have aren't clear. He looked at his messages at noone, haven't reply. It's 4pm. He hasn't text yet. Should I text him or wait? And anyone dating virgos can tell me about how your first date went? Talk to me about virgos. Thank youMeeting a virgo tonight for the 1st time, after an online long distance relationship (Please read) Any advice?
Do NOT meet anyone for the first time in HIS home. It's not prudent. Two years of communication online doesn't count. First time face to face meetings should take place in PUBLIC. Your friend should know where and when you're meeting. Your friend should know the first and last name of the person you're meeting. Your friend should know the home address of the person you're meeting.
The person you're meeting should know that you have a person, who is your friend, who knows these things.
The reason for this is simple. Should he have dishonorable intent he knows that his name and home address are known to someone who will tell the authorities should something happen to you.
Do you know martial arts? Are you able to defend yourself should he turn out to be predatory? If not then the back up plan has to be in place.
I'm not talking out of my hat here. All the women I know who have met men online have put this plan into action. Some have had men call off the meeting knowing that this woman isn't walking into a situation blind. These men were not worth meeting.
As a Capricorn you have to know that I'm speaking to your conservative core. Please consider my suggestion of having the first meeting in public. Wear shoes you can either run with or kick with, no high heels.Meeting a virgo tonight for the 1st time, after an online long distance relationship (Please read) Any advice?
I've been married to Virgo for 27 years :)
As you probaby know, your sign is very compatible with Virgo. Don't worry....Virgos are worriers, and he'll have enough for both of you! If you want to text him, go right ahead; Virgo doesn't always like to take the lead and often needs encouragement.
Dress nice, act classy, and don't let any emotions run away with you. After two years of talking, you already know each other pretty well. He already cares about you; Virgo is the very least likely man to be a ';player';. Just be yourself; I have a feeling that this is the beginning of a long relationship!
Hi Ana,
I answered your other question you posted. I didn't realize you and him had never met previously, but I'm sure my advice still applies and I hope you two have met. My Capricorn is not a phone person either, at least not in the evenings. He enjoys when I call him first thing in the morning when I get to work.
I am a Virgo female, so I will tell you about my first date with my Capricorn. Upon initially meeting, we were both immediately attracted to one another, but didn't act on it. I met him on the bus, ( he drives for the Smart Transit system) when my car broke down. For two weeks, I would watch him in the mirrors to see if he was looking at me. I would pay extra special attention to what I chose to wear each day. I know that sounds silly and I the bus ride could have been no more than five minutes, but I was totally smitten. Even when we exchanged pleasantries, it seemed it had not affect. He always kept his face serious looking, so finally I thought, he has to be married or already in a relationship and I would just settle for looking at him everyday. Well one day, I missed the bus that connects to his bus and he thought he was never going to see me again. Luckily, I made it just before he pulled off and when I got ready to get off the bus, he handed me a business card. On the back of the card, it read, Dinner Maybe with his phone number. We talked into the wee hours of the night and I discovered that he thought I wasn't interested in him and he also thought I was in a relationship as well, but he said when he thought he was never going to see me again, he told himself if I ever see her again, I am going to take my chances. On our first date, I was giggly nervous and I wanted to look really nice for him. He worked that day and didn't pick me up until nearly midnight. Why did we have on the same colors and we were dressed casually conservative? We both laughed at that. We were so comfortable with one another. . . I've never been that comfortable with anyone before. We instinctly held hands and we wanted to sit next to one another instead of across from one another. It was awesome and two years later, we are still together. We still marvel at how we almost missed our chance because we were assuming the same thing about one another.
Two years to meet up!?!? That's nervous/shy?
Shame you haven't given us his birth date, then we'd have more to go on than his Sun sign ';Virgo';.
Even if you could tell us what year he was born in we might be able to tell you something you don't already know.
Good luck!
Ax
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capricorns are very compatible with virgos! congratulations!
but that doesnt define everything.
try calling.
Just be yourself cos he'll eventually see right through you later on if you try acting 'fake' now, ALOT of Virgo man/ female ???? relationships failed b/c of this reason.
and wait for him to call or text- otherwise he'll think you are very needy. A big no-no in his eyes.
Cos I often hear/read of women being stood up by these guys alot- don't worry too much cos he's probably being worried enough for the both of you right now- most likely hyper-ventilating....btw this is normal Virgo behavior. If he does finally get back to you- it all depends cos I know they can be very secure Virgos out there, maybe he could possibly be running late but please, don't start texting him non-stop or he'll think you are very clingy- they guys need their space like the flowers need rain.
Be patient with this man.
If he stands you up- which I hope not, then you know what to expect next time or unless he cancels and gives you a sensible reason.
** Remember too that when these guys get nervous - it affects their digestive system.
And I am meeting him tonight for the first time.
I drove here 3 days ago, stayed at a friend. We were suppose to meet the night I got here, but I got here too late. The next day I text him (We text more then calling, because he hates to talk on the phone. We did talked on the phone, often. Just that he prefer texts) and he is having one of these typical virgo ';i'm nervous'; moment. I understand, Next day, he message me, saying he wants me to go at his house, I ask when, he say tomorrow (aka tonight) and I tell him to text me when he can meet me somewhere to help me get to his house because the directions I have aren't clear. He looked at his messages at noone, haven't reply. It's 4pm. He hasn't text yet. Should I text him or wait? And anyone dating virgos can tell me about how your first date went? Talk to me about virgos. Thank youMeeting a virgo tonight for the 1st time, after an online long distance relationship (Please read) Any advice?
Do NOT meet anyone for the first time in HIS home. It's not prudent. Two years of communication online doesn't count. First time face to face meetings should take place in PUBLIC. Your friend should know where and when you're meeting. Your friend should know the first and last name of the person you're meeting. Your friend should know the home address of the person you're meeting.
The person you're meeting should know that you have a person, who is your friend, who knows these things.
The reason for this is simple. Should he have dishonorable intent he knows that his name and home address are known to someone who will tell the authorities should something happen to you.
Do you know martial arts? Are you able to defend yourself should he turn out to be predatory? If not then the back up plan has to be in place.
I'm not talking out of my hat here. All the women I know who have met men online have put this plan into action. Some have had men call off the meeting knowing that this woman isn't walking into a situation blind. These men were not worth meeting.
As a Capricorn you have to know that I'm speaking to your conservative core. Please consider my suggestion of having the first meeting in public. Wear shoes you can either run with or kick with, no high heels.Meeting a virgo tonight for the 1st time, after an online long distance relationship (Please read) Any advice?
I've been married to Virgo for 27 years :)
As you probaby know, your sign is very compatible with Virgo. Don't worry....Virgos are worriers, and he'll have enough for both of you! If you want to text him, go right ahead; Virgo doesn't always like to take the lead and often needs encouragement.
Dress nice, act classy, and don't let any emotions run away with you. After two years of talking, you already know each other pretty well. He already cares about you; Virgo is the very least likely man to be a ';player';. Just be yourself; I have a feeling that this is the beginning of a long relationship!
Hi Ana,
I answered your other question you posted. I didn't realize you and him had never met previously, but I'm sure my advice still applies and I hope you two have met. My Capricorn is not a phone person either, at least not in the evenings. He enjoys when I call him first thing in the morning when I get to work.
I am a Virgo female, so I will tell you about my first date with my Capricorn. Upon initially meeting, we were both immediately attracted to one another, but didn't act on it. I met him on the bus, ( he drives for the Smart Transit system) when my car broke down. For two weeks, I would watch him in the mirrors to see if he was looking at me. I would pay extra special attention to what I chose to wear each day. I know that sounds silly and I the bus ride could have been no more than five minutes, but I was totally smitten. Even when we exchanged pleasantries, it seemed it had not affect. He always kept his face serious looking, so finally I thought, he has to be married or already in a relationship and I would just settle for looking at him everyday. Well one day, I missed the bus that connects to his bus and he thought he was never going to see me again. Luckily, I made it just before he pulled off and when I got ready to get off the bus, he handed me a business card. On the back of the card, it read, Dinner Maybe with his phone number. We talked into the wee hours of the night and I discovered that he thought I wasn't interested in him and he also thought I was in a relationship as well, but he said when he thought he was never going to see me again, he told himself if I ever see her again, I am going to take my chances. On our first date, I was giggly nervous and I wanted to look really nice for him. He worked that day and didn't pick me up until nearly midnight. Why did we have on the same colors and we were dressed casually conservative? We both laughed at that. We were so comfortable with one another. . . I've never been that comfortable with anyone before. We instinctly held hands and we wanted to sit next to one another instead of across from one another. It was awesome and two years later, we are still together. We still marvel at how we almost missed our chance because we were assuming the same thing about one another.
Two years to meet up!?!? That's nervous/shy?
Shame you haven't given us his birth date, then we'd have more to go on than his Sun sign ';Virgo';.
Even if you could tell us what year he was born in we might be able to tell you something you don't already know.
Good luck!
Ax
.
capricorns are very compatible with virgos! congratulations!
but that doesnt define everything.
try calling.
Just be yourself cos he'll eventually see right through you later on if you try acting 'fake' now, ALOT of Virgo man/ female ???? relationships failed b/c of this reason.
and wait for him to call or text- otherwise he'll think you are very needy. A big no-no in his eyes.
Cos I often hear/read of women being stood up by these guys alot- don't worry too much cos he's probably being worried enough for the both of you right now- most likely hyper-ventilating....btw this is normal Virgo behavior. If he does finally get back to you- it all depends cos I know they can be very secure Virgos out there, maybe he could possibly be running late but please, don't start texting him non-stop or he'll think you are very clingy- they guys need their space like the flowers need rain.
Be patient with this man.
If he stands you up- which I hope not, then you know what to expect next time or unless he cancels and gives you a sensible reason.
** Remember too that when these guys get nervous - it affects their digestive system.
I am having a lot of problems in my long distance relationship and need some advice?
I have been having a long distance relationship with my bf for the past 7 months, it has been 2 months since I have seen him and I am very much in love with him, he gets mad easily and tells me that i am just like the rest of the girls he has had, i really want things to work out between us i don't know what to do or say because it seems that I am the one that is messing up all the time, things where not like this before I don't now if it is the fustration of not being able to be together, he will come see me in a few days He has told me he does not feel the same no more and the love has decreased because of so much arguments, please anyone with experience in this matter give me some advice, what should I do and change about me I love him, Thanks.I am having a lot of problems in my long distance relationship and need some advice?
communication is key so is visiting each other
communication is key so is visiting each other
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Need some advice from a girl. long-distance relationship help?
ive been with this girl but now im having prolems..its a long story so i need to IM with someone on yahoo or something. reeeallllly need some advice from someone willing to listenNeed some advice from a girl. long-distance relationship help?
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I'm in a long distance relationship... and I need advice?
So long story short, I've been doing a long distance relationship for about a year and four months. The only reason we haven't had the opportunity to be together is because he's in Canada, and I'm in the U.S, so immigration plays a role. I'm having a super hard time with being happy as things go on, and the more our love grows, but I'm not able to be near him. We see each other every few months. He's growing more and more frustrated with me as things go on and I feel more and more depressed, and sad. I think he should be willing to go through the ups and downs with me, but he's thinking that pulling the plug will be better! I'm not understanding how a heart break will be better for me? I don't get it, but he says if it's hard for me now ( 1 yr and 4 months) then, the months to come will be EVEN harder on me, and not necessarily knowing when he'll be able to come down here, or I'll go there is tough. Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? Have you ever been through a gut wrenching heart break? I need to know I'm not the only one going through this. It's tough, and I feel like I need support where ever I can get it. Please share your story with me... I would love to hear it, and the advise you have
:(I'm in a long distance relationship... and I need advice?
First and foremost, how old are you two? I would think the problem could be easily resolved if you or him moved and lived together. I've been in a long distance relationship for the passed 3 years (he is in the military), and yes, things have been very difficult for us two, but we manage.
The frustration and depression you feel when you aren't together is heartbreaking if you don't have something to look forward to. Is there any chance you two will live together some day? Why does he want to end the relationship? If he loves you as much as you claim he does, shouldn't he try to reunite with you as soon as possible, rather than weighing the odds of being in a long distance relationship? All you can do is love and hope when you are in this kind of relationship..
I wish you the best of luck.I'm in a long distance relationship... and I need advice?
The problem with a long distance relationship is that at some point, one of you needs to be willing to close the distance and move. If you are both as unhappy with the situation as you sound, this is something you need to talk about. Immigration does play a role, and this would be a major desicion, but honestly, its the only way to make this work.
if i understood you right than i think that maybe he doesn't want this relationship anymore and starts to have doubts about that
I wish it was not true, but guys use to blame it on girls when they search for a reason for a break up...
i hope its not true...
i have been in a LRD the last 2 yrs yea its heart but as i can understand u love him and he doesnt as much as u do...so instead of hurting urself break it off ldr's are difficult and not for all the ppl
Write him a letter telling him how much you enjoyed your time together, but alas , it will never be again and to get on with his life.
you just need to keep telling each other you love them because you cant show it youneed to hear that comfort
well me i tired a long relation ship if y'all really love each other it should work
Long distance relationships don't work...trust me.
Long distance relationships never work. From a personal experience to some my friends have gone through it.
He is right, it won't get easier, it will get harder. And yes, almost everyone has gone through a gut wrenching break-up/heart break. No one can tell you exactly how to get through it only that you CAN get through it. Considering what I know, I would end it as soon as possible. If there's no way to be together, than let it go. Let yourself move on to meet someone you can be with.
I know how you feel at least your on the same continent and wont need to learn another language.
Long distance relationships has its highs and lows. What a understatement, I don't have to tell you.
Only thing to do is keep positive about both of your goals knowing one day the two of you will be together.
You keep saying immigration problems, there is a easy way in. Wish you would have explained how there not helping.
But if both of you know your the person they wish to grow old with and be your husband and he wants you as his wife one day. Why not ask him to marry you and finish your education there ?
Goodbyes are always hard even when you know you'll see the person you love in a weeks time.
First of all, dont let people tell you that long distance relationships NEVER work. They're VERY difficult (you obviously know that) But they can work, as long as you find a way to move near each other.
My fiance and I met through a friend who moved from minnesota here to california. We started talking a lot ,and realized we were crazy about each other. That was almost a year ago, and we've been going back and forth as much as possible to see each other, we text literally ALL day, we find routines to balance work,school,and our phone conversation time, basically just do everything in our power to make it work. Sending little letters and gifts helps.
Once I'm done with my associates degree at the end of this school year, I'm moving out to MN with him and we're going to start our life together. Like I said, it is VERY hard and we've had to work through our problems being thousands of miles away from each other, but to us..it''s completely worth it.
However, like I said..this is a lot easier than your situation because we know exactly how much time until we get to be together, and if your situation doesn't change (as in, neither of you move).. I'm sorry, but the chances of it surviving aren't very good especially if he's already thinking of breaking up. Again, it is not impossible..but you can't force him to stay either.
Its tough, I know. My fiance and I just said goodbye about a week ago, and wont be able to see each other again until January, but that will be our last time of having to say goodbye. The next time, I'll be moving there and we can leave the painful long distance behind.
Stay strong, and do what you can to keep it together if you feel it's worth it. You have to make sure he feels the same though, otherwise you're in for a heart break :(
Good luck, and remember..don't let anyone tell you it CAN'T work.
I was once in a long distance relationship. I'm bisexual by the way. We were talking and one day and she said she liked someone and she didn't know how to tell them and I got jealous (at this time neither of us knew we liked each other) and she said, ';I don't understand why you are mad at me! YOU'RE the one I like!';
From that day on we were in a relationship. She was supposed to come to my state that Christmas but things didn't exactly work out. I don't think I was in love enough to have a long distance relationship. To be in one, you have to be committed and I just wasn't. I still have a crush on her and I still feel I made a mistake by letting her go.
My advice is, if you really love him, and he really loves you, go for it. There will be lonely nights that you wish you could be with him, and you just can't. Just keep your head high, and look at the glass half full.
A FAST HEART BREAK IS EASIER AND LESS HURT FULL THEN A STRETCHED OUT HEART BREAK. HE'S SHOWING YOU THAT HE CARES BY LETTING YOU GO NOW BETTER THAN LATER. YOU MAY NOT THINK SO BUT HE'S THINKING WITH HIS HEART...HE DOESN'T WANT THE HURT TO CONTINUE OR GET WORST. IF ITS HARD FOR YOU TO SEE HIM NOW, IT'LL ONLY GET WORSE DOWN THE LINE BECAUSE THE STRESS AND FRUSTRATION IS GONNA BUILD AND THAT ALONE IS GONNA CAUSE YOU BOTH TO STAY AWAY. ITS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST , THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL. THESE TRIALS IN LIFE ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER
I'm in a long-distance relatiotnship atm too (2 years). He moved to live in Vancouver during his gap year and i was studying in the UK sill, that was about 8 months ago, saw each other for a week a month ago and now i'm in the US studying and he's gone back to the UK lol. Before he went though, he broke up with me. He didn't think long-distance relationships worked etc and thought it would be better to see other people whilst we were apart. We agreed to just keep it casual and remain for friends than lovers and just go with the flow. We ended up staying together.
I was completely heart broken for 2 weeks though, he broke up with me a month before he was due to leave, and than we met and got back together, he left 6 mnoths later and broke it up again (yep it's confusin lol). I was constantly crying etc though each time. At first i thought ';well if he loved me he would try harder to make it work';, i soon realised that he was right, long-distance relationships are soo difficult, it doesn't matter on age or even how in love you are. The whole point about relationships is that you grow together and experience life together, and that's not happening. Love isn't enough unfortunatley. Even now, i'm finding it just so difficult. The only thing that's geting me through is knowin that in 4 months, i'll be returning home to live for good. If it wasn't for that, i don't think either of us could do it, no matter how much we love each other. That's my biggest advise, to always know when you'll be seeing each other again, no matter how far in advance it has to be. But you know, having my heart broken has made me soo much stronger and i would never take it back. And i've learnt that there are sooo many other men in the world, he's not as great as your making him out to be right now i promise, they'll be others, greater!
If its meant to be, and u guys really love eachother, a long distance relationship will work!! It is hard in the begining but it will become easier.......I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 years, and we are crazy about eachother. There are different ways to keep it alive online, like webcam dates, audio, cybersex......etc...If you r both willing to be patient, and believe that your love is stronger than the distance, it will work! Good luck!
The only way to have a healthy normal relationship is for it to move forward - to see other regularly and share everday experiences. As you are so far apart, this is impossible. You both have a life in your own countries and yet, you are expected to act like boyfriend/girlfriend. It just won't work unless one of you are ready to move country and set up home together - that's a big step and therein lies the problem with distance relationships - it doesn't have a chance to develop over time. It will be harder in the short term but you need to move on with your own life - your boyfriend has as much said that is what he wants to do. Of course it will hurt but you can't really miss him that much if you don't see him often.
spare yourself from the pain
long distance relationships NEVER WORK.
:(I'm in a long distance relationship... and I need advice?
First and foremost, how old are you two? I would think the problem could be easily resolved if you or him moved and lived together. I've been in a long distance relationship for the passed 3 years (he is in the military), and yes, things have been very difficult for us two, but we manage.
The frustration and depression you feel when you aren't together is heartbreaking if you don't have something to look forward to. Is there any chance you two will live together some day? Why does he want to end the relationship? If he loves you as much as you claim he does, shouldn't he try to reunite with you as soon as possible, rather than weighing the odds of being in a long distance relationship? All you can do is love and hope when you are in this kind of relationship..
I wish you the best of luck.I'm in a long distance relationship... and I need advice?
The problem with a long distance relationship is that at some point, one of you needs to be willing to close the distance and move. If you are both as unhappy with the situation as you sound, this is something you need to talk about. Immigration does play a role, and this would be a major desicion, but honestly, its the only way to make this work.
if i understood you right than i think that maybe he doesn't want this relationship anymore and starts to have doubts about that
I wish it was not true, but guys use to blame it on girls when they search for a reason for a break up...
i hope its not true...
i have been in a LRD the last 2 yrs yea its heart but as i can understand u love him and he doesnt as much as u do...so instead of hurting urself break it off ldr's are difficult and not for all the ppl
Write him a letter telling him how much you enjoyed your time together, but alas , it will never be again and to get on with his life.
you just need to keep telling each other you love them because you cant show it youneed to hear that comfort
well me i tired a long relation ship if y'all really love each other it should work
Long distance relationships don't work...trust me.
Long distance relationships never work. From a personal experience to some my friends have gone through it.
He is right, it won't get easier, it will get harder. And yes, almost everyone has gone through a gut wrenching break-up/heart break. No one can tell you exactly how to get through it only that you CAN get through it. Considering what I know, I would end it as soon as possible. If there's no way to be together, than let it go. Let yourself move on to meet someone you can be with.
I know how you feel at least your on the same continent and wont need to learn another language.
Long distance relationships has its highs and lows. What a understatement, I don't have to tell you.
Only thing to do is keep positive about both of your goals knowing one day the two of you will be together.
You keep saying immigration problems, there is a easy way in. Wish you would have explained how there not helping.
But if both of you know your the person they wish to grow old with and be your husband and he wants you as his wife one day. Why not ask him to marry you and finish your education there ?
Goodbyes are always hard even when you know you'll see the person you love in a weeks time.
First of all, dont let people tell you that long distance relationships NEVER work. They're VERY difficult (you obviously know that) But they can work, as long as you find a way to move near each other.
My fiance and I met through a friend who moved from minnesota here to california. We started talking a lot ,and realized we were crazy about each other. That was almost a year ago, and we've been going back and forth as much as possible to see each other, we text literally ALL day, we find routines to balance work,school,and our phone conversation time, basically just do everything in our power to make it work. Sending little letters and gifts helps.
Once I'm done with my associates degree at the end of this school year, I'm moving out to MN with him and we're going to start our life together. Like I said, it is VERY hard and we've had to work through our problems being thousands of miles away from each other, but to us..it''s completely worth it.
However, like I said..this is a lot easier than your situation because we know exactly how much time until we get to be together, and if your situation doesn't change (as in, neither of you move).. I'm sorry, but the chances of it surviving aren't very good especially if he's already thinking of breaking up. Again, it is not impossible..but you can't force him to stay either.
Its tough, I know. My fiance and I just said goodbye about a week ago, and wont be able to see each other again until January, but that will be our last time of having to say goodbye. The next time, I'll be moving there and we can leave the painful long distance behind.
Stay strong, and do what you can to keep it together if you feel it's worth it. You have to make sure he feels the same though, otherwise you're in for a heart break :(
Good luck, and remember..don't let anyone tell you it CAN'T work.
I was once in a long distance relationship. I'm bisexual by the way. We were talking and one day and she said she liked someone and she didn't know how to tell them and I got jealous (at this time neither of us knew we liked each other) and she said, ';I don't understand why you are mad at me! YOU'RE the one I like!';
From that day on we were in a relationship. She was supposed to come to my state that Christmas but things didn't exactly work out. I don't think I was in love enough to have a long distance relationship. To be in one, you have to be committed and I just wasn't. I still have a crush on her and I still feel I made a mistake by letting her go.
My advice is, if you really love him, and he really loves you, go for it. There will be lonely nights that you wish you could be with him, and you just can't. Just keep your head high, and look at the glass half full.
A FAST HEART BREAK IS EASIER AND LESS HURT FULL THEN A STRETCHED OUT HEART BREAK. HE'S SHOWING YOU THAT HE CARES BY LETTING YOU GO NOW BETTER THAN LATER. YOU MAY NOT THINK SO BUT HE'S THINKING WITH HIS HEART...HE DOESN'T WANT THE HURT TO CONTINUE OR GET WORST. IF ITS HARD FOR YOU TO SEE HIM NOW, IT'LL ONLY GET WORSE DOWN THE LINE BECAUSE THE STRESS AND FRUSTRATION IS GONNA BUILD AND THAT ALONE IS GONNA CAUSE YOU BOTH TO STAY AWAY. ITS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST , THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL. THESE TRIALS IN LIFE ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER
I'm in a long-distance relatiotnship atm too (2 years). He moved to live in Vancouver during his gap year and i was studying in the UK sill, that was about 8 months ago, saw each other for a week a month ago and now i'm in the US studying and he's gone back to the UK lol. Before he went though, he broke up with me. He didn't think long-distance relationships worked etc and thought it would be better to see other people whilst we were apart. We agreed to just keep it casual and remain for friends than lovers and just go with the flow. We ended up staying together.
I was completely heart broken for 2 weeks though, he broke up with me a month before he was due to leave, and than we met and got back together, he left 6 mnoths later and broke it up again (yep it's confusin lol). I was constantly crying etc though each time. At first i thought ';well if he loved me he would try harder to make it work';, i soon realised that he was right, long-distance relationships are soo difficult, it doesn't matter on age or even how in love you are. The whole point about relationships is that you grow together and experience life together, and that's not happening. Love isn't enough unfortunatley. Even now, i'm finding it just so difficult. The only thing that's geting me through is knowin that in 4 months, i'll be returning home to live for good. If it wasn't for that, i don't think either of us could do it, no matter how much we love each other. That's my biggest advise, to always know when you'll be seeing each other again, no matter how far in advance it has to be. But you know, having my heart broken has made me soo much stronger and i would never take it back. And i've learnt that there are sooo many other men in the world, he's not as great as your making him out to be right now i promise, they'll be others, greater!
If its meant to be, and u guys really love eachother, a long distance relationship will work!! It is hard in the begining but it will become easier.......I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 years, and we are crazy about eachother. There are different ways to keep it alive online, like webcam dates, audio, cybersex......etc...If you r both willing to be patient, and believe that your love is stronger than the distance, it will work! Good luck!
The only way to have a healthy normal relationship is for it to move forward - to see other regularly and share everday experiences. As you are so far apart, this is impossible. You both have a life in your own countries and yet, you are expected to act like boyfriend/girlfriend. It just won't work unless one of you are ready to move country and set up home together - that's a big step and therein lies the problem with distance relationships - it doesn't have a chance to develop over time. It will be harder in the short term but you need to move on with your own life - your boyfriend has as much said that is what he wants to do. Of course it will hurt but you can't really miss him that much if you don't see him often.
spare yourself from the pain
long distance relationships NEVER WORK.
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